Her advice instead: 'Anything that you wouldn't want your children, your parents or your boss to see, doesn't belong on a dating profile.' So what does make a good photo for dating sites and apps? The profile photo is the important first impression, and 'it should be friendly and approachable' as well as attractive, says Alex Williamson el-Effendi, head of brand for the Austin, Texas-based dating app Bumble, where women make the first move by initiating the chat after a match. 'Some women think, 'If I show a sexy picture, he's going to think I'm sexy.' If you show a sexy picture, he's going to want to hook up,' says online dating expert Julie Spira, founder of. Likewise, dating sites are full of women's selfies taken from an elevated vantage point, highlighting their cleavage. Women, they say, tend to swipe left when they see gym selfies. Not such a good idea, according to dating experts.
Like male peacocks showing off their magnificent plumage to attract a mate, some men on dating sites post topless mirror gym selfies.
